If it’s hard for you to name your feelings and needs, it’ll be a real challenge to give effective feedback, mediate conflicts, cultivate trust, and problem solve efficiently, particularly during intense conversations or arguments. The main culprits for challenges during disagreements – whether you’re at work or home – are judgments. When judgments take over, and you lose sight of your feelings […]
Personal Growth
EQ Basics: How Big is Your “Feelings” Range?
Sooner or later, stuff around “emotional intelligence” inevitably comes up in my work with individual clients and teams. How could it not? Most people pay attention to five emotions, max: happy, sad, mad, good and bad. Out of a huge range of possibilities, this is all we track (and good/bad aren’t even feelings, they’re thoughts). So I have […]
Working With Someone You’re Triggered By? 6 Dos and Don’ts
How do you survive triggering work relationships? What do you do if you’re assigned to work with (or for) someone you’re annoyed by, who seems to stand for things you don’t believe in? To get past the ‘grin and bear it’ stage, it’s going to require a mindset shift on your side.* Why you? Because […]