Deconstructing the idea of being a “People Pleaser” in NVC May 17, 2021 By Mary Goyer, M.S. We can use Nonviolent Communication to work through a pattern of “people pleasing” in three easy steps. 1) Surface/core needs 2) Looking through a systemic lens at why this tendency often comes up for womxn 3) a system for quickly checking in about your boundaries – before resentment begins to accumulate